Sherri
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Ouuucccchhh...It's almost one am. I went to bed already....didn't stay there, but I already went in for the night.
About forty five mins later, I shot awake with a 10+++...Ouuuccch. I have been looking around my apt, and DO NOT REMEMBER putting a blanket...or a pillow on the vanity of the sink in the bathroom...IT WAS BRUTAL. I passed out after it...don't remember passing out at all either...and woke up...confused.
When "Chat" is up and running, I think it's a good idea...especially in the middle of the night, to check in...I could really use to talk with another CH right now...Im in an empty, dark apt...a bit shaken up. Some re-assurance would go a long, long way...just even communicating with another CH right now would do wonders for me.
I think it's AMAZING...sooo wonderful.....that you found someone awake at three a.m. Phil. Never has that happened to me...not even on ch.com. Im sooo glad you did...only sorry it wasn't me....I was awake, just didn't have the computer on.
Of course, for the past few weeks, I've kept my computer on, around the clock(in case Ike felt like Skyping me....the time difference is difficult for he and I...)and, of course, when I finally start to shut it down at nite, you could've used to talk to me....even if you alerted me computer wise, we could've talked on the phone, if you felt like it.
"The middle of the nite" is a tough time for us CH's...timing, after all, is everything. There are many, many times in the wee hours, I NEED to reach out...like now. Im shaken up.
So...when chat is perfected, make sure everyone, that you check in to see if anyone is there in need of help...includling yourself. Be sure to reach out to us too.
Love you guys, Sherri :smt022
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Annette
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This may be a sensitive question but it is one I must ask : when you CHers are hurting bad, does talking to a supporter help or only to another CHer help?
I would appreciate an honest answer here because I dont want to do the wrong thing and I would like to respect the needs of all of you.
I have been told to leave CHers alone when they are hurting bad as saying something wrong or doing something wrong then will only make it worse.
Its sometimes hard for a supporter to know what to say because we arent in your shoes, we may say something we think will be helpful but it may turn out to be something you CHers hate to hear.
We are all learning !  
Editted to add: Please tell us what you find helpful in a supporter.Thanks guys!
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Sherri
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Dear Annette,
There are two answers...YES AND NO.
I would've LOVED speak with you last night....you GET AND UNDERSTAND CH...you ARE a supporter, so I would NOT need to explain anything to you.
AFTER the hit, CH'r or supporter, is FINE.
During a hit....suppporters, unless otherwise PRE instructed, SHOULD NOT touch a CH'r. But, it seems another CH'r CAN touch a CH.
I realized this is a touchy, touchy and CONFUSING situation.
DURING A HIT...LEAVE US ALONE....CH's AND SUPPORTER'S BOTH!!!!!!!
These a two separate times: DURING A HIT....and .... AFTER A HIT. NO ONE is a HELP DURING!!!! Including a CH...although we KNOW another CH gets it...
After a hit has calmed down, we NEED BOTH...WE NEED OUR SUPPORTERS!!!!! We need a hug....some encouragement, as we often cry....esp after an 8-10. Go on what the CH is telling you at the time.
DURING...DON'T TALK. Bring the CH what helps them...which needs to be PRE determined...be it a glass of water, a pillow...a blanket...or simply shutting the door and making sure everyone else leaves the CH alone at the time.
It's really DURING the hit that that is the "dangerous" "touchy" time. There is an "edge" on a CH...a hair trigger "edge". Afterwards, we're a mess...vulnerable.
I would WELCOMED a hug from you earlier this a.m....even now...I have been up and down since before midnite...nothing would be nicer than having a supporter throw a blanket over me right now....
I understand it's touchy...BEWARE: Both CH's and supporter's DURING...thats all. It's like any other sickness. When you're feeling really nauseous, in alot of pain, etc....not many of us enjoy talking or being touched.
WE NEED YOU SUPPORTERS...YOU ARE VITAL. Love, THE CH'S  MEGA1.gif ...THIS is basically what we're being attacked by DURING. We LOVE YOU Annette. 
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phil h
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I'm sorry ........... the first 1am to 6 am shift on the board I've missed in 5 days . 10+++ ouch ouch ouch............. You've been owned by your beast badly..................... I wish I was able to help . I couldn't log out of this site again last night so I shut down . I've been up , off and on for most part . Computer was off.................... I wish for you , the family size can of beast begone spray................. You're right , If we had a chat board where we could find each other when we are merely surviving it would be great . You get tired of finding nobody to curse and scream with ............ I hopr you feel better .... It's a terrifying experience to become aware of blackout pain with memory ghosts .......... phil h :smt104  :smt108
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Tech Moderator
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Holy socks !
Wish i could help I have fixed "Chat" so if you need it in the night it's there for you. Is passing out normal for a bad ch? 
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Sherri
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Welcome. So good to meet you!!!!!
Thankyou for helping me!!! Oh God, Thankyou.
Thankyou for fixing chat....that's golden. Makes me feel just a little better.
Again, it's very good to meet you.
Sherri
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